Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Well, I tried...
So, I sent letters to Raymond's dad and to his brother. No response from his dad, and he doesn't answer when Raymond calls him. I got the letter to Clayton back "attempted not known" and it was sent to his address to his unit on base, so that tells me he refused it. Also, I had someone message his stepmother from their fb page... She recieved a message from the stepmom asking who she was. She replied back with the reason for contacting her and now she's blocked from the stepmom's account. Nice. No matter how much I am estranged from my other son, Clayton, I could never stop loving him. Ray Sr., on the other hand, won't even swallow his pride despite a cancer scare for his namesake. Knowing his mother and father, I know he was raised with better morales than that. Shame on some people! Well, they all have this link and are able to follow Raymond's progress, should they ever grow a heart...
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Lynda is not nice to clayton either... so that is no surprise. And, I do not think he would consider her any sort of mother including a "stepmother." I just wanted to say that I think there are always 2 sides to the story and you have to want to change and be a better person or you can't expect anyone to want to be a part of your life. However, I come from parents who love me and my sister very much no matter what we could ever do. So I do find it unfortunate that clayton and Raymond do not have this support system. Clayton is a very good person and he is a wonderful husband. I could not ask for better. However, he is very stubborn and your relationships may never be fixed. I do hope that Raymond's cancer has not come back though, no one should have to go through that. Also, (although I do not think it would matter), Clayton is no longer in that unit and did not receive any mail. Clayton has grown a lot since we have been together and he is a good father now. I know that he will also be a good father to our children someday regardless of the life he has had himself. Again, I am sorry that Raymond is struggling with this cancer and I do hope he fully recovers but, because of the relationship they have had in the past, this situation will not change clayton's mind.
ReplyDeleteAs for changing, I have done that in every way, but having a relationship with Clayt isn't something I deserve anyways. It makes me sad that he didn't have a mother figure in Lynda because I was led to believe that she was wonderful to him and that gave me some sort of piece of mind that she was making up for my shortcomings. I can always be reached through here, facebook, email, or regular mail (Ray Sr., Jean, and Pam F. have that address) should the need or want ever arise. I wish I could have sent this reply privately via email instead of publicly on here, but it is what it is. Btw, I have loved Clayt regardless of anything he has done or said throughout the years and nothing will ever change that. He just didn't allow me the opportunity to make up for what I said and for not being there for him, which I totally understand. Again, thank you for replying and for being such a wonderful wife to my son.
DeleteSasha, I appreciate you replying. It shows me that at least one person on that side is following rays progress. Thank you for that. Although there definitely are two sides to the story, there's still no excuse for what I said to Clayt and I should have been a stronger mom for my kids. That being said, this blog is regarding rays cancer and, although I'll being posting an update post from the most recent hospital visit, I'll tell you now that his blood profile showed no cancer! So, yay for that. As for clayt someday being a great father, of that I have never had a doubt.
ReplyDeleteThat is wonderful that the cancer has not come back. I am sure you are very happy about that. Also, of course this is a place to post updates regarding his cancer, some of the posts just make clayton seem a bit heartless so I just wanted to point out that he is not. That's all. :)
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